NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised
you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never
criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look
around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at.
This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our
mistake too.
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CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for
marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be
found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship.
Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears
off,they wake up and discover that marriage is not a
bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
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NO OVERPOWERING*
Many relationships fail because one party tries to
overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character." It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..
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PERSONAL PERCEPTION*
Different people have different perception. One man's
meat could be
another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from
the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very
stupid. Why neither of them rides on the donkey?" Upon
hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the
donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw
it and commented, "The husband is the head of family.
How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband
is on foot?"
Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the
husband ride on the
donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She
commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let
the wife walk. He is no gentleman." The husband thus
quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.
Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor
donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons.
They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and
wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and
carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a
narrow bridge, the
donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their
balance and fell into the river. You can never have
everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you.
Never in the past, not at present, and never will be
in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our
conscience is
clear..
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BE PATIENT*
This is a true story which happened in the States. A
man came out of
his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement,
his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents
into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his
son, knocked him away, and hammered the little boy's
hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed
down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the
crushed bones, he
finally had to amputate the fingers from both the
boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery &
saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy,
I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when
are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went
home & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on
your feet or u
wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your
patience with someone u love.
Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings
often can't. Too
often we fail to recognize the difference between the
person and the
performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater
than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes.
But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us
forever.
*"Good Life starts only when you stop wanting a better One" *
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised
you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never
criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look
around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at.
This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our
mistake too.
----------------------------------------------------------
CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for
marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be
found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship.
Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears
off,they wake up and discover that marriage is not a
bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
----------------------------------------------------------
NO OVERPOWERING*
Many relationships fail because one party tries to
overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character." It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..
----------------------------------------------------------
PERSONAL PERCEPTION*
Different people have different perception. One man's
meat could be
another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from
the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very
stupid. Why neither of them rides on the donkey?" Upon
hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the
donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw
it and commented, "The husband is the head of family.
How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband
is on foot?"
Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the
husband ride on the
donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She
commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let
the wife walk. He is no gentleman." The husband thus
quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.
Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor
donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons.
They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and
wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and
carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a
narrow bridge, the
donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their
balance and fell into the river. You can never have
everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you.
Never in the past, not at present, and never will be
in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our
conscience is
clear..
----------------------------------------------------------
BE PATIENT*
This is a true story which happened in the States. A
man came out of
his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement,
his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents
into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his
son, knocked him away, and hammered the little boy's
hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed
down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the
crushed bones, he
finally had to amputate the fingers from both the
boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery &
saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy,
I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when
are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went
home & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on
your feet or u
wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your
patience with someone u love.
Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings
often can't. Too
often we fail to recognize the difference between the
person and the
performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater
than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes.
But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us
forever.
*"Good Life starts only when you stop wanting a better One" *
__._,_.RIGHT SPEECH*
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning
that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships
break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy.
We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their
construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted," I,
Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary
school." On the way home, her millionaire husband
teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you
will be the wife of a construction worker." She
answered," You should appreciate that you married me.
Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed
for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed!!!!
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning
that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships
break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy.
We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their
construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted," I,
Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary
school." On the way home, her millionaire husband
teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you
will be the wife of a construction worker." She
answered," You should appreciate that you married me.
Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed
for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed!!!!
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